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Tips for a Dad to be

These tips for Dads to be is humorous, honest, interesting and pretty sound advice. Check them out:

  • Hormone mania: Your wife’s hormones will be all over the place, if you thought women were hard to understand before pregnancy, you are in for a shock. And the thing is, just  when you think you have cracked it and her figured out – Boom! You are in for another shock. This is particularly true during the first trimester.
  • I agree: Your pregnant wife is always right. Even when she is wrong. And if you agree with her, which you have to (even when she is wrong) then it is your fault if she is wrong. (Which she never is).
  • Man up: Help out around the house. Ask your wife what needs doing and do it. Try and get into a new routine where you can incorporate household chores into your busy life – clean the bathroom before taking a shower or load/unload the dishwasher whilst making a well deserved cup of tea.
  • Join in, share a laugh: if ever there was a time where you could have a burping competition with your wife. This is it. Loser makes the tea. (See above, do the dishwasher whilst you are at it).
  • Let the good times roll: It has been said that women have an increased sex drive during their 2nd trimester. If this is the case then enjoy every single minute of it. I can not guarantee when the next opportunity will be.
  • Share the news: The beginning of the second trimester is a good time to tell your boss you are expecting a small bundle of joy. Find out about paternity leave and what other local arrangements you can make such as taking leave etc.
  • But I really wanted a….: Gender disappointment can happen. Firstly, be prepared for it and secondly talk to your partner about it. It is not that you are disappointed, more likely that you were expecting it to be the opposite. There is nothing like being a Dad to a boy or a girl. Believe me!
  • Be involved from the very beginning: wherever possible, go to each and every appointment, the baby may be growing inside your wife but you are doing this together and you are a Dad from the very beginning, not just once your baby is born.
  • Do some research: Find out about your wife’s options when it comes to giving birth. What do the words C-section, induction, birth plan and natural mean to you? Go find out.
  • Look after yourself: Stay fit. Or get fit. Don’t think that you need to gain weight just because your wife is. It will be harder for you to lose in the long run.
  • Yeah it’s weird, but you’ve got to get it: You’ve heard about cravings right? Well they are pretty real, and if your partner needs something, she will love you forever if you go out at crazy o’clock and get it. Drive safely.
  • Now that’s love: Your partner would seriously appreciate a foot massage.
  • Compliments to the one you love: Your partners body is changing. You will notice it and more importantly of all, your partner will notice every single change. You have never loved her more. And she is more beautiful than ever because she is carrying the person you have made together. She may need to be reminded of this. Go tell her she is beautiful.
  • How are you goes a long way: Never forget to ask how your partner is and listen intently. Like it is the only thing in the universe that is worth knowing.
  • Pamper (not Pampers): As well as the foot massage as featured above, don’t forget to be the romantic you truly are; love letters, flowers, text messages telling her how happy you are. These are all essential. Don’t forget them.
  • A little persuader: did you know that sex can induce labour? Just thought id throw that one out there. As I have previously said, I can not guarantee when the chance will next arise…
  • Hang on in there: if you don’t feel like you have a connection with the baby whilst your partner is pregnant then stress not. You will probably not have an immediate connection when the baby is born either. But trust me on this – your partner and your baby need you more than you will ever know so give them your all and you will reap the rewards.
  • Get organised: go through your partners checklist (she will have one) and make sure you have your own bag packed. This needs to include cameras, chargers, money, drink, toothbrush , toothpaste and some snacks for the both of you. Imagine that you have been awake for 24 hours, what will you need? Don’t forget to keep the car topped up with fuel either.
  • Question time: Your partner will have lots of questions she will either need answers too or need reassuring about. Do your nest to find the answers for her or find them together and reassure her all you can. The more you know, the better the experience will be for you too! And never be too shy or too embarrassed to ask the midwife!
  • Safety first!: You should have a new car seat in your car before the baby is born and you should be confident with how to fix it, how to attach it and how to strap baby in. Never compromise on  car seat safety.
  • She’ll get by with a little help form her friend…(you): Help your partner with all the things she can’t do. This is likely to be tying shoe laces or putting boots on, but could also be cutting her toenails (or painting them)…pretty much anything to do with reaching her feet. Enjoy!
  • Fail to prepare? Prepare to panic! Never be too far away as the due date approaches and wherever you are, always know the quickest way to the hospital.

This post was written by a real dad as he prepared for his baby’s arrival. We hope you enjoyed it and feel free to submit your posts for consideration. Comments are always welcome.

31 weeks and counting

So here I am 31 weeks pregnant with my third child. Not sure on a name and not feeling ready. Time is flying though! With two other children to take care of, there is not a lot of time to think about being pregnant. I feel very lucky though and  trying to take swollen ankles, cramp and insomnia in my stride!! I have made a list of what I need still- I only have a Moses basket so far! It is all becoming very real though- 9 weeks to go. Very exciting! Will the baby be early or late? What will it look like? How much will it weigh? I am sure there are lots of you out there feeling the same as me! The countdown to birth is on!!! 

Should I Take Iron Tablets During Pregnancy?

Taking daily iron supplements during pregnancy can reduce the chances of anaemia and of you having a low birth weight baby.

Iron deficiency is one of the most common causes of anaemia in pregnant women and previous studies have suggested that there could be a link between anaemia and low birth weight. A recent study by Harvard university found that taking iron supplements – even small amounts, reduced the risk of low birth weight by 3% and anaemia by 12%. There was no link identified between taking iron supplements and a reduction in premature births.
The British medical journal recently analysed over 90 trials involving pregnant women from all over the world and concluded the following:

  • For every additional 10mg of iron taken each day (up to a maximum of 66mg per day), the risks of anaemia and low birth weight decreased
  • Birth weight was found to increase by 15g with each 10mg of iron taken per day
  • Iron deficiency is the most common cause of anaemia during pregnancy, particularly in low and middle income countries

The world health organisation currently recommends 60mg of iron a day for pregnant women

In the UK, women’s iron levels are measured at key points during pregnancy, usually at booking and again at 28 weeks. If iron levels are found to be normal, there is currently no requirement to recommend iron supplements. If iron levels are found to be low, you may then be given dietary advice or advised to take iron supplements.

Anaemia affects 1.62 billion people globally, corresponding to 24.8% of the world population. Iron deficiency is the most common cause and even in the developed world an estimated 30- 40% of preschool children and pregnant women have iron depletion.

Dietary changes alone are insufficient to correct iron deficiency anaemia, if you are thinking of trying for a baby, you should look closely at your diet and ensure you are eating enough iron rich foods.

The Royal College of Midwives state that there is perhaps a need here in the UK for us to focus on ensuring better pre-conception health, so that women contemplating pregnancy can adjust their diet to include appropriate nutrients before becoming pregnant.”

Did you take iron supplements during your pregnancy? Did you have low iron levels? Do you think all pregnant women should be advised to take iron supplements or is the current advice in the UK sufficient?

I leave you with one last quote from BJOG: An International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology before you decide whether or not to take iron tablets/supplements.

Anaemia in women is often associated with low birth-weight and pre-term births but that does not mean that women should be popping iron pills, or any vitamin pills, indiscriminately. Women who are not suffering from anaemia should ensure that they receive proper advice on diet and nutrition.

My aim was to provide you with enough information for you to make an informed decision, I hope I have been able to help.