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The Worst Advice We’ve Ever Heard About Parenting

As soon as you become pregnant you will be inundated with parenting advice, be it old wives tales, straight from the text book quotations or “What I did was…” remarks, as a new parent you will need and welcome plenty of good advice and support. Not the sort of advice you will find in this post though (the rest of the web site is perfectly fine – we promise). Here is the worst parenting advice we have ever heard.

Cut a hole in the dummy – What a great idea to stop your child from sucking the dummy – by creating a choke hazard and endangering his life. Thanks but no thanks.

Let your baby cry it out – Because she will obviously turn into a very spoilt child if she learns her parents are there for her when she needs her. We don’t want her thinking that now do we.

Wrap her up tight, she’ll sleep for longer – This may help your child sleep for longer if you wrap him so tight he is much warmer than is safe – you are also preventing the natural Moro (startle) reflex babies have up to 6 months old.

As long as the program is educational, watching television is fine. – Really? Is watching tv really the kind of interaction your newborn needs? Of all the wonderful things in the world your little one can experience and see for the first time you are going to sit him in front of a 40″ widescreen hd television are you? That sounds great. Just great. Well done you.

Don’t even consider co-sleeping – SIDS is awful. It is scary. It is a constant worry. We do not need ill informed people telling us what we can and can’t do thank you very much. You should always be aware of the risks of co-sleeping and do all you can to minimise these by creating a safe sleeping environment and following official advice.

Wait until your baby is 6 months old before you give her solid foods. – Pardon? You want me to ignore all of the cues my baby is giving me that she is ready to try some real food and instead wait until she is 6 months? 6 months may be when most children are ready but that doesn’t mean IsI have to wait if I Know my child is ready!

It didn’t do you any harm – I love this one. It didn’t do me any harm that I touched the radiator and got burnt, ate too much junk food, had whiskey rubbed on my gums, was given antihistamine to get me to sleep through and slept on a pillow from birth (those things didn’t really happen to me – well, not all of them). My point is, yes, we can survive bad things happening to us but that doesn’t make it ok to do it to someone else if you know it is wrong. We will give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they didn’t know it was bad to do these things to children.

If your child pinches or bites someone, do it back to them. – And so the circle begins. Isn’t that how wars start? Deliberately hurting your child is not going to teach her anything. In fact, you are demonstrating it is ok to do this if you are upset or angry. It isn’t rocket scuence, you are your child’s first role model. Act like one.

Quite often, people are capable of offering both good and bad advice, don’t rubbish every word that comes out of someone’s mouth just because their advice on baby’s sleeping habits are a little dated. The trick to being a good parent is to filter out the rubbish, remember the good, piece it together with other bits of good advice and make your own mind up. If the advice is around your baby’s health or safety, professional advice is always recommended, although I’m sure your best friends sister has a better way of doing things!……

If you have any other ‘bad advice’ you would like to share then please leave a comment. We would to hear it (it’s always good for a laugh).